'I Asked My MIL To Leave The Hospital After She Said 4 Words To My Baby'

A first-time parent has revealed she asked her mother-in-law to leave the hospital shortly after her baby’s birth after she told the newborn: “You’re my second chance.”The parent said she had a difficult labour and ended up needing an emergency C-section. While she was in recovery, her mother-in-law visited the hospital to meet her new grandchild. The mum recalled: “I was groggy and out of it when she arrived, but I remember this very clearly: she picked him up, stared at him for a while, and said, ‘You’re my second chance. I won’t screw it up this time.’” She added that her husband didn’t hear it, but she did, so she asked her mother-in-law what she meant by it. The parent then said her mother-in-law responded: “Let’s just say I wasn’t the mom I should’ve been ... but now I get to do it right.”It didn’t go down well The new mum said the response sent her “over the edge” and she told her mother-in-law that her baby “was not her second chance, this was my baby, and she needed to leave”.“She tried to say she meant it ‘spiritually’ but I doubled down and asked the nurse to escort her out,” she continued.After the altercation, the family is in “uproar” and the parent said: “My husband understands why I was upset but thinks I should’ve just ignored the comment and waited until I was home to set boundaries.”Second-guessing herself, she then asked: “Was I too harsh?”Most people seemed to think she wasn’t being unreasonable for standing her ground. One respondent said: “If she wants a second chance of being a better mother, being a good grandmother is not the way to go about that. Her son may even resent her for being a good grandmother and not being a good mom?“OP did what she felt best and it’s not overreacting. The baby is nobody’s second chance.”Where does she go from here?One commenter suggested the best step forward is to try and explain how she felt to her mother-in-law in order to start “building bridges” again.“You’re not over or under reacting, you just reacted,” they said. “As for your reaction, I understand where you’re coming from ... many couples resent the feeling of family members rushing in to ‘own’ the baby.“I think talking to her and telling her very calmly how you felt is a great start to building bridges.”Another suggested the behaviour needs to be “nipped in the bud” – and some suggested the parent’s husband needs to step up to the challenge.“Why on earth was she even there when you were post surgery?” asked one Redditor. “She should have waited until you were well enough to come home from hospital. I’d be having words with husband too. He needs to step up and support you, his wife.”Another commenter suggested the parent is owed an apology from her mother-in-law, not the other way around. “Grandma needs to apologise for making the birth of her grandchild all about her own regrets as a mother. This is not her ‘second chance’ baby. She’s not going to be raising it. This is her first chance as a Grandma,” they concluded.Related...Grandparents Overstepping Boundaries? Yes, You Need To Speak Out – Here's HowGrandparents Think Kids Are Ruder These Days. Are They?Study Identifies The 1 Grandparent Who Has The Biggest Impact On Kids

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