'I Chucked My Parents Out After One Comment To My Wife'

Upset wifeNavigating family relationships is hard at the best of times. Add an external factor – like a spouse – into the mix, and it’s no wonder so many adults still fight with their parents.For Redditor u/Add_Debate, their most recent disagreement with their parents started over a comment about their wife’s weight. Writing to r/AmIOverreacting (AOI), site user u/Add_Debate asked: “AIO for asking my parents to leave after my mom grabbed my wife’s belly and asked if she was pregnant?”We asked Professor of Psychology at Rutgers University and author of the upcoming The Body Image Book for Women, Dr Charlotte Markey, and the founder of Etiquette Expert, Jo Hayes, how to handle the tricky situation.The original poster (OP)’s parents recently moved nearbyThe poster, a 29-year-old man, said his parents, who used to live far away, recently moved near his family home. So, to greet them to the area, he and his wife decided to have them over for dinner. His partner was still in her “cooking clothes” when his mum and dad arrived, OP said, including a “tight” shirt.“My mom saw my wife, grabbed [her] belly, and asked... if she was pregnant,” he continued. OP had previously mentioned that his wife was “insecure” about weight changes following their wedding.“I didn’t want a massive argument, so I rushed my parents out... then assured my wife as she started to cry,” he stated.Since then, his mother has admitted she was wrong to say what she did, but suggested the poster was “overreacting” in throwing them out of his house.“My dad said that by not allowing my mom to apologise on that day, I made them seem like jerks to my wife,” he ended. “Am I overreacting?” Both experts agree that the comment was hurtfulSpeaking to HuffPost UK, Dr Markey said that while “it may not have been a malicious mistake... the parents should not have commented on her body, should not have asked if she was pregnant, and definitely should not have grabbed her stomach!” Pointing out that “This behaviour from his parents suggests some deep-seated weight bias,” the professor added, “Being clear and asking them to leave was not an overreaction in my professional opinion.“The parents’ behaviour likely deeply hurt his partner – his reaction was protective of her.” For her part, Hayes says it is always a faux pas to ask a person if they’re pregnant. “Wait for the couple to announce” this, even if you think all signs point to pregnancy. She’s a little more lenient towards the mother, though, suggesting she have a sit-down with OP’s wife and “offer a sincere apology”.Related...'My Child Drew Chalk Pictures On The Pavement. Was I Wrong To Let Them?'When Is It Rude To Ban (Or Bring) Kids As Guests?Etiquette Expert Shares The 'Rudest' Way To Wear Sunglasses

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