I'm A Solicitor – This Is The 1 Major Mistake Parents Make During Divorce

Divorce happens to tens of thousands of couples each year in the UK. Yet when parents split up, there is one common mistake that can cause havoc for those with children.According to Georgina McCluskey, solicitor at Ribet Myles, one of the biggest blunders she sees is when parents try to “erase” the other parent from their child’s lives – whether inadvertently or not.Some of the signs of this include: removing family photos from around the home, not engaging much with the other parent, and bad-mouthing them in front of their child. “This can cause further distress to your children, who will inevitably be struggling with your separation,” she told HuffPost UK.As hard as it is to split from someone – especially if they’ve done something hurtful, like cheating – your children shouldn’t have to choose between you and their other parent. Nor should they have to be dragged into the drama. “It’s important to remember they are still the mother or father of your children and will remain, aside from yourself, the most important person in their lives,” said McCluskey. “Consistency in family life, collaborative co-parenting and respect for the other parent, can help mitigate the emotional impact a divorce has on your children.”How to win at co-parentingHere, the solicitor has shared some ways to nail co-parenting (although she notes these won’t be suitable in situations where there are allegations of abuse):Be friendly at handovers and, if possible, go to the door/pop in for a quick chat. Don’t sit in your car and let the children get out on their own.Let children keep family photos of the other parent in their room, or in the house (if you’re comfortable with that).Support your child’s relationship with the other parent – be positive about their time together and make it safe for children to discuss this with you.Don’t “interrogate” children about their time with the other parent.Avoid spats over the smaller things like forgetting the PE kit – keep spare essential items at both houses. It is important for both parents’ houses to feel like home. Always speak positively about the other parent, and never bad mouth them, especially when children can hear. It’s OK to say positive things about them and is helpful for children to hear this – it doesn’t weaken your divorce case.If struggling, co-parenting apps can help to achieve amicable/constructive communications. Related...You Ask, Experts Answer: 'I Want To Divorce My Husband 2 Weeks Into Our Marriage'I Divorced When My Kids Were 3. Now, I’m Awaiting A Decision That Will Change Everything.10 Things Not To Say To Your Kids When You're In The Middle Of A Divorce

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