'I've Been Asked To Pay For Roast Dinner At A Mate's House. WTF?'

I love to cook, but when I’m making a meal for a group of four or more people, I’ll admit my meal plan becomes more guided by my pocket than my stomach. After all, grocery prices are still well above the rate of inflation. And the price of meat, like beef, has soared even higher.With that said, I have never given, nor received, the terms Redditor Feeling_Basil7535 shared with r/AskUK yesterday. “Is it odd that I’m being asked to contribute financially to a meal?” they asked. We reached out to Ilir Salihi, founder and senior editor of finance site Income Insider, for his thoughts.The original poster (OP) is uncomfortable with the dealOP said that the person making the Sunday roast is their boyfriend’s sister’s fiancé’s cousin (phew). In other words, they are not close.For the sake of clarity, let’s call the host Mike.The plan is to spend the day doing an activity on the Saturday before returning to Mike’s for a roast dinner, which Mike will be making.Mike is a chef, and he wants a tenner from each guest to cover the cost of the meal. “Is this normal?” OP asked. “I’m uncomfortable with this and think it’s wrong to want payment when you’ve invited people over. They both have good jobs, too.” They ended: “I do not want to go to a meal where I’m expected to pay. Am I overreacting?” The financial advisor agreed with OP Though some Redditors commented that £10 was “a steal” for a chef-cooked roast dinner, Salihi agreed with the poster. “If you invite someone to your home, you host. That means you pay,” the financial expert said.“There are some circumstances where charging guests is acceptable, such as if you frame the event as a pop-up supper club, but for a classic dinner party or a roast, it’s unacceptable etiquette to ask your guests for money.“If the host wants to cost-share, they can call it a potluck, or suggest BYOB, or be explicit that it’s a paid tasting with limited seats.”It’s not that he doesn’t think a tenner is a great deal for a roast (he does), but the financial expert said that’s missing the point.“While there’s no doubt that the proposed roast is a fantastic deal for a chef-cooked roast, it’s all about framing,” he ended.“There are alternative ways to contextualise the event that may help him pull this off without breaking etiquette codes.”Related...When Is It Rude To Ban (Or Bring) Kids As Guests?These Are The Rudest Things You Can Do On A Flight, Expert Says7 Easy Dinner Cheats People Swear By For Busy Weeknights

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