'I Worry My Husband's Been Radicalised By The Far Right. WTF Do I Do?'

Far-right activist Tommy RobinsonNot only are couples with different political views more likely to break up overall, but The Times reports that disagreements around the contentious topic of Brexit increased the risk of a split by 60%. Duke University suggests that near-unavoidable discourse about topics like these can make even politically disengaged couples with opposing views more prone to breaking up: it’s hard not to take a side on issues that big.Perhaps it’s no wonder, then, that up to three-quarters of couples in the UK have historically identified with the same political party. But as political tensions continue to rise, how are those with different views expected to navigate their marriage?It’s a question a Mumsnet user, who wrote that what she calls her husband’s “radicalisation” left him “unrecognisable,” grappled with on the site. She and her husband have always had political differences The poster shared that while she’s left-wing and her partner has always been a Tory supporter, they’ve been able to “manage it” – ’til recently. Now, she says, he spends much of his time “in the back room watching stuff that I’ve pointed out is insane,” which she suggests is often related to inaccurate myths about immigration.The poster says her partner plans to attend a rally led by former far-right EDL leader Stephen Christopher Yaxley-Lennon (better known by one of his aliases, Tommy Robinson), who was jailed for contempt of court after repeating false allegations about a refugee while under an injunction and is believed by many to have helped to incite previous violent protests.For her part, the poster says, she will attend a counter demonstration on the day. She says that after she questioned him about the march (stressing that she “agrees with peaceful protest”), her husband “shut the door and got the blankets out, obviously sleeping there tonight.” “I’m in a job where if he goes... and gets arrested, I will be compromised, as I work with children,” she worried.“We used to differ on economics, sure, but now... I can’t talk to him,” the poster wrote. “WTAF am I meant to do?” Boundaries are key Speaking to HuffPost UK, relationship therapist and author at Passionerad, Sofie Roos, said: “My best advice for couples in this situation is that you set limits and boundaries for what you accept in your home.” Correcting your partner with more accurate facts, she adds, will probably not convince them, though that might be a tempting instinct.Instead, she says that those seeking repair might want to “focus on the feelings behind your partner’s beliefs. Talk about their frustration, anger or fear in terms of feelings, rather than making it political.” You can also “Let your partner know that this has a negative effect on you and the family, and let them know that it worries you a lot”. But the therapist says that it’s important to “draw a line which you won’t accept being crossed”; one this poster’s husband may have already passed.“If your partner’s politics pose a threat to your safety, work or just make you feel very uncomfortable, that’s not something you should put up with. If it goes this far, then set an ultimatum – me or your new political standpoint!” she said.It is, after all, important that you “not forget yourself in all this”, Roos ended.If you’re worried someone you know might act on extreme beliefs, ACT Early can help you to spot signs of radicalisation and offer early support. Anything you share will be confidential.If you suspect radicalisation is more advanced, contact Prevent, which is again anonymous. Call 999 in case of immediate danger.Related...Fact-Check: Here's A Look At The Reality Asylum Seekers Actually Face In The UKAlmost Half Of Brits Are Getting An Essential Fact About UK Immigration WrongYour Child Was Called A Racist Slur. Here's How To Talk To Them About It

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